🎙️ EPISODE 15: You’re Not in Resistance - You’re Out of Alignment
The False Diagnosis of Resistance
Let’s cut the crap.
You’ve been told your hesitation is “resistance.” That you’re afraid of success. That you’re self-sabotaging. That you’re lazy. That you just need to “push through.”
Bullshit.
You don’t close deals month after month if you’re lazy. You don’t lead a team, run a business, or keep clients coming back if you’re undisciplined. You don’t survive in this game - let alone win in it - if you’re afraid of success.
The problem isn’t resistance.
It’s that you’ve been gaslit into believing every pause, every hesitation, every hell no in your body means something’s wrong with you…instead of seeing it for what it is: a signal.
A signal that the way you’re operating - selling, leading, scaling - isn’t matching where you’re actually meant to go next. A signal that you’re trying to force next-level results from an old-level identity.
And here’s the kicker...you can still hit the numbers. You can still sign the clients. You can still win the award and make the leaderboard.
But it will cost you.
It will cost you energy. It will cost you trust in yourself. It will cost you the ability to create results without bleeding for them.
Because what you’ve been calling “resistance”? That’s actually your system throwing a red flag and saying, “...this strategy, this pace, this way of showing up - this isn’t your truth anymore.”
That’s not weakness. That’s wisdom.
And when you ignore it? That’s when the real sabotage begins.
What’s Actually Happening in the Body
Here’s what no one in the “just hustle harder” crowd will tell you - your body is not here for your marketing plan.
Your body’s job is not to make sure you hit your Q4 revenue goal. Your body’s job is to keep you alive.
And when the way you’re operating, selling, or leading doesn’t feel safe on a deep, physiological level, your system doesn’t care how badly you want the money, the recognition, or the impact. It will shut it all down.
It’s not personal. It’s biological.
That moment you call “procrastination”? That’s your nervous system throwing you into freeze.
That launch you “mysteriously” lost steam on halfway through? That’s your survival system deciding the pace and pressure felt like a threat, and pulling the plug before you could fry your circuits.
That rollercoaster where you push for weeks, then retreat into invisibility? That’s not because you’re inconsistent. It’s because you’re operating from a high-alert, low-trust state. And your body can’t hold the frequency of the woman you’re trying to become.
See, your nervous system has been trained over years to feel calm when you’re over-delivering. To feel safe when you’re small. To feel peace when you’re pleasing.
So when you suddenly decide, “I’m going to raise my rates.” “I’m going to stop discounting myself.” “I’m going to take up more space.” Your body doesn’t see that as growth. It sees that as danger.
This is why strategy without recalibration will burn you out every damn time. Because no matter how good your plan is, if your body doesn’t feel safe at that level, it will sabotage every step that gets you closer.
Not to hurt you. But to protect the identity you’ve been living in.
And until you rewire that, you’ll keep playing a rigged game.
How to Differentiate Between Fear and Misalignment
Here’s the truth no one wants to admit: fear and misalignment feel almost identical in the body.
Both will make your chest tighten. Both will make you hesitate. Both will make you want to run back to what’s familiar.
But here’s the difference - fear happens when you’re expanding into something your body isn’t calibrated to yet. Misalignment happens when you’re forcing yourself into something your soul doesn’t consent to.
Fear feels like standing at the edge of a cliff you chose to climb - you’re exhilarated, your stomach flips, but deep down, you know the view is worth it.
Misalignment feels like being shoved toward the edge of a cliff you never wanted to be on - every cell in your body says no, and the more you push, the heavier and slower you get.
Fear is “I’ve never been here before.” Misalignment is “I’ve been here before, and I know exactly how this ends.”
The problem? Most high-achieving women can’t tell the difference anymore, because they’ve been taught to override both.
You’ve been praised for ignoring the red flags in your own body. You’ve been rewarded for tolerating the wrong rooms, wrong deals, wrong clients because you delivered anyway.
So now, when resistance shows up, you shame yourself. You push harder. You double down on the strategy. And you call it “discipline.”
But here’s the cost: when you mistake misalignment for fear and try to “push through,” you’re not just ignoring a signal - you’re cementing an identity that only knows how to win by self-betrayal.
And here’s the kicker: you can hit your goals from that place. You can make the money from that place. But you will bleed for it. And you will train your body to believe that’s the only way to win.
This is why identity recalibration isn’t optional - it’s the only way to build a nervous system and self-image that can hold the life you say you want without burning it, and yourself, down in the process.
Realigning Your Identity to Support Expansion
Here’s the problem with most “alignment” advice: it’s surface level. Vision boards. Mantras. A playlist that hypes you up for 20 minutes before your next sales call.
There is a place for all of that. But that’s not alignment. That’s costume work.
Alignment is when your thoughts, emotions, and actions all point in the same direction, and that direction matches the woman you say you want to be.
When you’re in alignment, your sales conversations shift - not because you memorized a script, but because you are the script. Your conviction, your tone, your energy - they carry the offer before the words even leave your mouth.
When you’re in alignment, you don’t need to “push” your team or “motivate” yourself. Your presence calibrates the room. Your vision becomes contagious.
And when you’re out of alignment? It’s like driving with one foot on the gas and one on the brake - you might still move forward, but you’re destroying the engine.
The truth is that you cannot scale results from an identity built in a season of survival. You can’t lead a business from the identity you built when you were trying to prove your worth.
Expansion requires identity integrity. It requires you to stop running the playbook of the woman who had to overdeliver, overwork, or overcompensate just to be seen.
Because the woman you’re becoming? She doesn’t run on fumes. She doesn’t close deals out of desperation. She doesn’t say yes to clients who make her stomach turn. She’s not accessible 24/7 to prove she’s “committed.”
She’s precise. She’s measured. She’s in the room because she chooses to be, not because she’s scared to lose her seat.
When you realign your identity to support expansion, you stop “trying” to be her - you are her. And your results catch up fast.
Action from Alignment, Not Pressure
Let’s be blunt - high-achieving women are masters at moving under pressure. Deadlines, quotas, launches - you’ve built empires in the adrenaline rush of urgency.
But here’s the truth no one tells you: pressure may get you results, but it will bankrupt your body, your creativity, and your confidence in the long run.
Because when your nervous system is addicted to pressure, you will unconsciously create chaos just to feel motivated. You’ll wait until the last minute to sell. You’ll take on too much. You’ll operate in a constant cycle of push-crash-recover-repeat.
Action from alignment is different.
Action from alignment isn’t frantic - it’s clean. It’s precise. It’s rooted in clarity, not panic.
When you act from alignment, you move because it’s the obvious next step, not because you’re trying to outrun the shame of “not doing enough.”
This is where sales get easier - not because you’re hustling harder, but because you’re operating from the identity of the woman who already holds what she’s creating.
She doesn’t beg clients to say yes. She doesn’t force offers down people’s throats. She doesn’t chase - she commands. And she expects the people in her world to show up.
And here’s the thing - you can’t fake this. You can’t sprinkle mindset on top of misalignment and call it embodied leadership.
You have to rewire the identity first. Because until you do, every action - no matter how strategic - will still carry the frequency of the old you.
When you act from alignment, you’re not just building a business or hitting a sales target - you’re building an energetic legacy. One that sustains you. One that expands you. One that your team, your clients, your industry can feel.
And that? That’s when you stop playing for short-term wins and start leading a game no one else can touch.
CLOSING
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