Create Lasting Relationships the Right Way, the First Time.

When I finally decided that I was going to stop living inside other people’s ideas of how I should be living my life, raising my children, and pursuing my goals, I became free. It was a freedom that I had never experienced before. You see, my entire life, I had hid every single little detail about who I was and where I had come from, except with those who I trusted enough to divulge the dirty details. And even then, you could know me for years on top of years before I would tell you that I was born into foster care and that I was a homeless street kid from when I was 12 until somewhere inside my 18th year. I made sure that to look at me, you would NEVER guess those things about me. I wanted a fresh slate. I wanted people to give ME a chance for who I was, but what ended up happening is I started to attract other people who kept secrets and who weren’t emotionally free, and who would do whatever it took to keep those secrets. That is not what I wanted, not at...

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Get Rid of Toxic Relationships Once and For All

While I was married, I lived out west and I was surrounded by women who weren’t happy in their marriages. I was one of them and we bonded on how little our spouses showed up for us, we queried about who might be cheating, we laughed at how much more capable we were, and we cried on each other’s shoulders when times got tough and we were desperately unhappy. Things felt harder for me, in my family situation because of a lot of other reasons than just being unhappy, and because of that, I vowed that I would put an end to the misery I was putting myself through, but I had two small children and I imagined that if he wasn’t showing up for me at all as a partner, he would probably be 100 times worse if I were to leave him. I had to bide my time. When I moved back out east, I knew that the time was imminent…it wasn’t going to be long until we were separated and I had to face the world with two little kids who were looking to me to continue to be their...
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Your First Heart Break Post Divorce is AWFUL

Ahhhhhh okay…so we’re going to go here. I don’t talk about this ever. But I guess it’s time to go here with you because I want to be completely transparent and honest. And you should know that the desire to fall in love right out of the gates after a toxic relationship is real. And you almost can’t control yourself: you just want to be loved and admired and you want to feel something, don’t you? For me, it was an Italian man who lived 50% of the time in Sicily and 50% of the time in Toronto. He was so poetic and handsome and real and the way he described the world and his country and what he wanted for his life... gosh, I fell so hard that I visited him in Sicily and spent time with his mama making pasta from scratch and drinking homemade wine, and eating seafood from the ocean that was just down the street, and talking and laughing for hours using google translate. I mean, seriously... I was loving it, and they all...
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Post Divorce: You Are Here For A Purpose. Remember that.

It’s amazing to me how men and women keep women down. It’s shocking, actually. And my heart truly expands when women, despite what is thrown at them, do what they need to do in order to survive, including designing an entirely different life, work their tails off, and then have the patience to see it through. 
 
“Just stay the course.” This is a sentence that I said to myself so many times when I was homeless and 12 years old, sitting in the sunshine behind an abandoned church in the rubble, contemplating suicide. I had a piece of glass to my vein in my left arm, I was crying, and I had no idea how I was going to survive. I don’t talk about those days very often, but I want to impart to you that I listened to my gut, that voice deep down inside…my intuition, and I’m glad I did. “...breathe...just stay the course. All you have to do is make it to 18. Everything changes when you’re 18.” I spent the rest...
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