🙋🏻‍♀️Who else wants an amazing life filled with love, unstoppable confidence and an exciting future?

Is the future of what is playing in my mind inevitable? I kept thinking about this - it was like it was on a loop every morning when I woke up. I was filled with this dread about my future. I was thinking "what if I am just fooling myself? What if I really can't pull this off?" My mind started playing games with me. I decided to start reading A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle because it was time. I was sick and tired of being sick and tired and all I could think was: "Omg, Tanya - you've had breakups before. Let it go." The truth is that I had trouble letting go of any relationship. This was a problem I used to have my entire life. So this was good! I identified something that was going to help me: I had to learn to love myself more so that I could let go of what was bad for me, to let go of what I didn't really want but was afraid to let it go completely for fear of losing myself, too.

 

I began wondering how I could actually change my mind. Could I just decide to be a different...

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Create Lasting Relationships the Right Way, the First Time.

When I finally decided that I was going to stop living inside other people’s ideas of how I should be living my life, raising my children, and pursuing my goals, I became free. It was a freedom that I had never experienced before. You see, my entire life, I had hid every single little detail about who I was and where I had come from, except with those who I trusted enough to divulge the dirty details. And even then, you could know me for years on top of years before I would tell you that I was born into foster care and that I was a homeless street kid from when I was 12 until somewhere inside my 18th year. I made sure that to look at me, you would NEVER guess those things about me. I wanted a fresh slate. I wanted people to give ME a chance for who I was, but what ended up happening is I started to attract other people who kept secrets and who weren’t emotionally free, and who would do whatever it took to keep those secrets. That is not what I wanted, not at...

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When will I know I'm ready to fall in love again?

When will I know I'm ready to fall in love again? Such a good question. Also another question is: when is it time to fall in love again? I get asked these questions a lot. My answer is always the same: it depends on where you’re at in your personal development and if you’re ready to show up on the same level that you expect a partner to. Soooooo often we forget that if we’re asking for a partner who is good at listening, is generous, loving, self less, kind, mindful, aware, takes good care of themselves, works hard..we forget that we need to be all the things that we are asking for. What makes you think that you’re ready and able to handle a relationship on that level UNLESS you are there, yourself? Because trust me when I say that I always asked for all these things, but then I would get them, and I would think “oooh…this guy thinks a lot about himself.” What I thought I saw was ego, but what I was really seeing was confidence. Because I...
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