🙋🏻‍♀️Who else wants an amazing life filled with love, unstoppable confidence and an exciting future?

Is the future of what is playing in my mind inevitable? I kept thinking about this - it was like it was on a loop every morning when I woke up. I was filled with this dread about my future. I was thinking "what if I am just fooling myself? What if I really can't pull this off?" My mind started playing games with me. I decided to start reading A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle because it was time. I was sick and tired of being sick and tired and all I could think was: "Omg, Tanya - you've had breakups before. Let it go." The truth is that I had trouble letting go of any relationship. This was a problem I used to have my entire life. So this was good! I identified something that was going to help me: I had to learn to love myself more so that I could let go of what was bad for me, to let go of what I didn't really want but was afraid to let it go completely for fear of losing myself, too.

 

I began wondering how I could actually change my mind. Could I just decide to be a different...

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The Secrets to Goal Setting and Fulfilling Your Potential During & After Divorce

Going through a divorce is one of the hardest things I have ever had to go through mostly because it caused me to stop running from myself. I completely lost my identity as a wife and mother and where I would fit in. All of my dreams for my future were gone and I had to start from scratch again. At 40! All of a sudden I could see that when I made the decision to quit my goals and my dreams and help him focus on his goals and dreams instead, that not only would the law not protect me financially, but now I was at a huge disadvantage and with small children, my time was so limited and the kinds of jobs I could get because of my schedule weren’t the kinds of jobs I thought I would need to get at my age, and with all of my experience. It was a massive slap in the face for all that I felt I had sacrificed. 
 
I won’t lie here. I won’t tell you that what I did by giving up my career to take care of my...
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Get Rid of Toxic Relationships Once and For All

While I was married, I lived out west and I was surrounded by women who weren’t happy in their marriages. I was one of them and we bonded on how little our spouses showed up for us, we queried about who might be cheating, we laughed at how much more capable we were, and we cried on each other’s shoulders when times got tough and we were desperately unhappy. Things felt harder for me, in my family situation because of a lot of other reasons than just being unhappy, and because of that, I vowed that I would put an end to the misery I was putting myself through, but I had two small children and I imagined that if he wasn’t showing up for me at all as a partner, he would probably be 100 times worse if I were to leave him. I had to bide my time. When I moved back out east, I knew that the time was imminent…it wasn’t going to be long until we were separated and I had to face the world with two little kids who were looking to me to continue to be their...
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Post Divorce: You Are Here For A Purpose. Remember that.

It’s amazing to me how men and women keep women down. It’s shocking, actually. And my heart truly expands when women, despite what is thrown at them, do what they need to do in order to survive, including designing an entirely different life, work their tails off, and then have the patience to see it through. 
 
“Just stay the course.” This is a sentence that I said to myself so many times when I was homeless and 12 years old, sitting in the sunshine behind an abandoned church in the rubble, contemplating suicide. I had a piece of glass to my vein in my left arm, I was crying, and I had no idea how I was going to survive. I don’t talk about those days very often, but I want to impart to you that I listened to my gut, that voice deep down inside…my intuition, and I’m glad I did. “...breathe...just stay the course. All you have to do is make it to 18. Everything changes when you’re 18.” I spent the rest...
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